Episode 138

Holding Space for Yourself and Others With Thomas Parkes

Published on: 9th December, 2024

"What does it mean to hold space for someone?" In this episode of The Wise Effort Show, host Dr. Diana Hill sits down with therapist and musician Tom Parkes to explore the concept of holding space for yourself and other people. Tom shares his experiences producing his new album, which reflects on the therapeutic process and personal growth. Through an intimate conversation, they discuss themes of vulnerability, the challenges of becoming a parent, and the evolving significance of personal songs over time. Tom also opens up about the importance of self-compassion. The episode highlights the interplay between holding space in therapy, music, and personal life, offering valuable insights for both therapists and non-therapists alike.

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  • The Art of Holding Space
  • How to Let People Be There for You
  • What to do when you wake up in the middle of the night
  • Ways to Break Therapy Norms

The episode is a heartfelt exploration of the art of presence, weaving together personal narratives with universal themes. It’s a must-listen for those seeking to deepen their understanding of connection, creativity, and compassion.

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    Diana Hill, PhD is a clinical psychologist, international trainer and sought-out speaker on Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and compassion. Host of the podcast Wise Effort with Dr. Diana Hill and author of The Self-Compassion Daily Journal, The ACT Daily Journal, and the upcoming book Wise Effort, Diana works with organizations and individuals to develop psychological flexibility so that they can grow fulfilling and impactful lives.

    Integrating her over 20 years of meditation experience with yoga and psychological training, Diana guest teaches at InsightLA, Blue Spirit Costa Rica, PESI, Praxis Continuing Education, Yoga Soup and Insight Timer Meditation. She is on the board for the Institute for Better Health, and blogs for Psychology Today and Mindful.org. Diana practices what she preaches in her daily life as a mom of two boys and bee guardian. Go to drdianahill.com or her channels on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, YouTube (@drdianahill) to learn more.